Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Sex In a Relationship: Necessary or not?

 


Hi, my name is Jessy. I’m an undergraduate of a Nigerian University. I really need your advice on a certain problem I have.

I met my boyfriend through a cousin of mine at the cinema. We (my cousin and I) went to the cinema during the festive period to see one of the blockbusters that premiered at the time.

We got there earlier, bought our tickets then got drinks while we waited. Suddenly, I saw a tall, handsome figure chatting with another dude. I couldn’t help but stare. He was perfect.

My cousin noticed that I was distracted. She called me up several times to get my attention, I’d look at her and then my eyes would stray back to its object of interest. Then, something happened. He was coming towards us! I could feel my heart thump hard.


My shock heightened when this guy gave my cousin a peck on the cheek! She knew him?? Well, I waited for the introduction which eventually happened. He kissed my hand in acknowledgement and I obviously blushed. We got talking for a while and I found out he was there to see same movie as ours.

Hours later, after the movie, we exchanged numbers and said our goodbyes. That day birthed a blissful relationship between us. It blossomed. He agreed to my “NO SEX” rule. I felt like I’ve got it all in one man.

One cool Saturday afternoon, he tried making love to me. I resisted and reminded him that I wasn’t up for it. He erupted like a volcano filled with hot molten magma. He saw no reason why we shouldn’t have sex we if we loved each other. He further said it was necessary that we have sex in order to check compatibility. Truthfully, this made no sense to me and I told him so.

He ranted and raved. He got to the bedroom door, turned and threatened our relationship if I don’t have a second thought at my decision. He slammed the door behind him leaving me stunned.

What do I do? I love this guy so much. Is sex really necessary in a relationship before marriage? Please guys, help me out! Do I succumb? Or stick to what I believe and end the relationship?

2 comments:

  1. M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ dear....dat guys doesn't love Ʊ Α̲̅πϑ Ʊ shudnt give up U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ values bcus of an apparent love..If he loves Ʊ @ all,then he shud wait Α̲̅πϑ И♡T pressurize Ʊ.dere isn't anything like test of compatibility. I advice Ʊ break up ѠĪŦ him b4 he rapes Ʊ one day...one trial ɪ̣̝̇ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇ enof...run oooooo.

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  2. Babe don't be a learner.....the moment Ʊ sleep ѠĪŦ him Ʊ will see his true colour..,na break up sharp sharp....besides ₪☺ man ɪ̣̝̇ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇ worth U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ virginity b4 marriage ₪☺ matter ♓☺w much love he professes...if he loves Ʊ S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ much he should pay U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ brideprice....else 4get him....better people will come U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ way

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